Most of you are aware now that Bird – also known as @thulimo – is having a major surgery on October 12th, to remove an 11 inch tumor and possibly an entire hysterectomy. It’s scary, mostly because we don’t know yet if it’s cancerous or not, and the oncologist is gong to have to take the tumor to pathology during the surgery to find out.
Because of the ongoing uphill battle with our insurance, the only place that would accept our plan was in a different city, so the medical bills and expenses are piling up fast.
This is to help with the expenses and bills from the surgery as well as knock out some of the older bills that are still hanging over our heads. Every time I think we have it paid down, a new bill arrives for bloodwork or tests or another appointment copay. The GoFundMe will probably not cover the cost of the surgery, with our deductible, but it is a start.
Bird deserves a chance to get better without having to live in a constant and perpetual state of stress because of money. She’s going to be out of work for a week before surgery and six weeks after. I’m going to be taking off a few days to be there for her surgery, and for a few days after to make sure she’s got everything she needs to recover. An 11 inch tumor is nothing to sneeze at; it’s attached itself to her uterus and her bowel. This is a major surgery, and the recovery process is going to be rough. There is also waiting to hear if it’s cancerous or not, and dealing with that answer when it comes.
So yes, I am asking for help. I don’t like asking for help. I know we all need help in one way or another, and like Bird, I prefer to be the one helping. But here I am, begging you to help me take care of my wife. She deserves a chance to get better, to feel better, to recover from this and go back to being the beautiful, bouncy, lively Bird we all know and love. This entire ordeal is taking a serious toll on her. She’s going to need 24 hour constant care during the weeks after her surgery, and every single cent helps me to provide that care for her.
If you want options other than GoFundMe, I have a ko-fi, and we have a shared Paypal that you can contribute to, if you’re not crazy about GoFundMe.
I’m also offering tarot readings from my Marigold Tarot deck (with pictures!) if you donate $10 or more. I’m open for fic commissions as well, $1 per 100 words.
Look, everything helps. If you can kick in $1, that helps, and I am immensely grateful that you’ve bothered to even read this far. If you can’t help, consider reblogging this. You can read more about Bird on the GoFundMe page, and maybe consider sharing it on twitter if you have one (or FB, I won’t judge).
Thank you.
UPDATE 9/28
This morning we hit the halfway mark for the GFM goal, which is absolutely incredible. I do not have the words to properly express my gratitude, or how much I have been crying about all of the love and support and generosity from everyone so far after only two days. I’ve posted an update on the GFM page itself but I thought I would repeat it here: in the event that we exceed the goal – because I really do not know how much the surgery is going to cost out of pocket yet but we do have a $7,000 deductible — all leftover funds will go to @thulimo’s aftercare expenses, making sure that she gets to follow-up appointments, medications, and whatever else she will need post-surgery. I intend to keep everyone updated as everything happens.
Also, I wanted to share something with everyone:
I’ve been trying to compose a proper thank you for hours now, to everyone, and all I can come up with is: people are good. People are inherently good, and every bit of support, from encouragement to donations to reblogs and retweets is proof of that and more. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for everything so far, and everything to come. When this is over, hopefully I’ll have found the words to truly express how much I love all of you, how much Bird loves all of you.
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